Opinions and being a Cock

I have opinions just like everyone else. I have thoughts and feelings. One of the inherent pleasures of writing also presents one of the problems of writing as well, when you express those opinions, inevitably, there is a reaction. The reaction always comes, good, bad, or indifferent. With the luxury of not having to look someone in the eye on the internet, belittling a person for their opinion, tales, experiences, or whatever imaginary transgressions becomes all too easy. The bully starts to come out when we realize that there is no one we really have to answer to. Suddenly, typically decent people become the biggest dicks when up against an opinion because they have this belief that they are truly entitled to be a bully.

There is also an illusion that if you have an opinion, you must support this opinion to the day you die and take on all challengers to this opinion. I really don’t think this is right as well. That kind of hardhead behavior is self-destructive. We are allowed to change our opinions as we age, grow as individuals, and are presented with facts to help us figure out what really is best. I can promise you that some of the opinions and feelings I have today are vastly different than what I had 20 years ago, even 10 years ago. On the other side of that coin you have the belief that if someone presents that opinion that is opposed to yours, you have to fly in their face and beat them to death with, what you feel is, the truth. I think all of this goes back to inherently being a bully.

I have learned that people love to create bullies. -“If your child hits mine and they hit them back, they deserve it.”- It’s not a bad thing to defend yourself, but there are limits. There is a certain amount of restraint to be had. Without being taught that there are limits and the finesse of restraint, you have created a bully. People, as a whole, have a hard time recognizing boundaries and where limits should be because we can’t agree or see past our rampant opinions. Failing to accept responsibility and ownership of actions, thoughts, and deeds, while decrying the similar actions of others is a major contributing factor to this bully culture.

So, I have just one ask. Just one. If you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face in real life, don’t say it on the internet. If you wouldn’t actually threaten some one’s life or limb in person, don’t do it online. If someone disagrees with you, just let it go. You’ll have your moments where you win. You’ll have your moments where you’ll lose. If you’re losing, don’t be a dick about it. If your cause is worth fighting for, keep fighting, and don’t stop. But be the better person. Don’t be a cock.

And, fair warning, if you are a cock, at least to me and the people I love, I am a writer and I will create an unflattering caricature before annihilating you in one of my stories.

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