Revisiting Pt.4: Fucking Disappointment

One of the things I enjoyed best about my Uncensored blog was the swearing. I beleive that sometimes you just have to swear, it’s an emotional punctuation. It’s a healthy way to release negative emotions. It’s easier to trust people who swear a little because they are honest about what they think. However, I am not a proponent of swearing AT other people. Swearing at someone to make yourself feel better or to belittle another is really quite boorish, rude, and wholly unacceptable.

There was no better emotion to swear with than disappointment. I beleive I had received rejections from every periodical I sent work for the last few months when I wrote this.


*language ahead.
What else can I say about disappointment? Other than it’s not the least bit amusing. There are lots of complex emotions involved. Anger, betrayal, hurt, outrage, sadness, and maybe a little sickness. It’s a big ball of mess. I have had my share of disappointments and some of them just left me feeling deflated and under valued as a human. Sometimes they have left me angry feeling as if I should do more, but with no place to funnel my energy. If we are feeling really disappointed we even lash out.

Then you have people telling you to just get over it. Sometimes it’s not a simple thing to master.

What I have found in my own path in handling disappointment is that there are a few steps that really help manage it and those complex emotions that tag along for the ride.

  1. OWN YOUR EMOTIONS. Take ownership of your emotions so that they don’t own you or hurt others in their wake. Don’t suppress or bottle them up. Quite the opposite. Acknowledge them, vent a little, do whatever but remember these are YOUR feelings. Don’t let them lead you to do something you will regret.
  2. CHANNEL THAT ENERGY. You’re fucking pissed or maybe feeling the shadow of sadness. Take that energy and channel it into something you love. Crafting, creating, exercise, journaling, meditation, or whatever you love to do that clears your head. Want to take on a cause or learn something new? Maybe even trying again. Just find that one thing you love and use it to help you get through what can feel like an overwhelming experience.
  3. ACCEPTANCE IS KEY. I know I have talked about acceptance before and not much has changed. But life can be really fucking hard and disappointing. We can accept that. If we keep denying ourselves the one tool of acceptance, then we can find ourselves in an emotional rutt. Accept what you can’t change and work towards bettering the rest.

“We must accept infinite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.”

– Martin Luther King Jr.

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